Support

Codependence

Let them think for themselves

Tell them what to do

Let them be accountable

Cover for them

Let them feel  pain

Shield them from it

Negotiate

Dictate

Avoid power struggle

Fight for control

Stand up for self

Avoid conflict

Enforce agreements

Give another chance

Live own life

Live addict’s life

Challenge unacceptable behavior

Tolerating unacceptable behavior can encourage it

Know that your suffering won’t help them

Show excessive sympathy

Detachment

Enmeshment

Encourage  positive and ignore  negative

Criticize, condemn, complain

Respect boundaries

Intrude

Focus on improving self

Focus on keeping addict from using

Do the unexpected

Continue pattern behavior

Decide what you will do 

Tell them what to do

Act!

Threaten